Are you tired of feeling stuck in a cycle of fear and self-doubt every time you saddle up your horse? Learn how a simple shift in mindset - rooted in curiosity - can change your horse riding experience, allowing you to overcome riding nerves, fear or anxiety and ride with confidence and joy.

Curiosity is a key mindset skill for all horse riders, especially those experiencing riding anxiety. 

When you approach challenges with curiosity, you open your mind and are able to explore possibilities rather than feeling pressured to have all the answers.

Embracing curiosity not only boosts your horse riding confidence but also helps regulate your emotions and calm your nervous system, which is particularly crucial for women of a certain age who may feel nervous or fearful about riding.

How Curiosity Can Improve Your Horse Riding Experience

Being curious allows you to adjust your focus, steering clear of the trap of unhelpful, negative thinking.

This shift in mindset can significantly improve your horse riding experience, especially if you’re dealing with anxiety or fear related to horse riding.

Overcoming Riding Challenges with Curiosity

Imagine you’re a mid-life horse rider facing a difficult movement or task with your horse.

Your horse isn't responding as you'd expected, and you start fixating on what isn't working.

Both you and your horse grow increasingly tense and frustrated, which only heightens your fear and anxiety about riding.

Negative self-talk creeps in, adding feelings of discouragement and self-doubt.

You begin pressuring yourself to “get it right”, telling yourself that “competent riders” wouldn’t struggle like this - they would know exactly what to do.

How to Use Curiosity to Overcome Riding Anxiety

This is the perfect moment to pause, take some deep, calm breaths, and start asking yourself better questions.

Our brains are naturally inclined to solve problems, so shifting into a curious mindset involves choosing more empowering, constructive questions, which is essential for mid-life women wanting to build horse riding confidence.

Ask Empowering Questions to Foster Problem-Solving

Questions like “Why am I so bad at this?” are counterproductive and only draw your mind further into negativity.

Instead, ask yourself:

  • What might be preventing my horse from responding as I'm asking?
  • How can I help my horse to understand or become more comfortable with this task?
  • What do I need to learn to resolve this issue?
  • Where can I find help to overcome this challenge?

Asking these types of questions sparks fresh thinking, kickstarting problem-solving.

It pulls you out of the negative spiral and shows that a solution is possible.

This process builds your confidence and reinforces your self-belief, helping you to regain confidence in the saddle.

The Science Behind Curiosity and Managing Riding Fear

Studies have shown that curiosity activates and encourages communication between multiple areas of the brain.

This neural activity ignites your thinking and creative problem-solving abilities, helping to override negative mental states like frustration and fear, which is crucial for anyone experiencing anxiety about horse riding.

How Curiosity Impacts the Nervous System for Fearful Riders

Curiosity enables you to break free from being stuck by expanding your awareness of options, shifting you from a negative emotional state into a more resourceful one.

When you're in a negative mental state, your sympathetic (fight-or-flight) nervous system is triggered, which can cloud your ability to think clearly and creatively.

By asking the right questions, you redirect blood flow to the brain’s prefrontal cortex, which aids in regulating your nervous system and restoring a sense of safety - vital for mid-life horse riders working to overcome riding fear.

Refocus Your Attention for Better Horse Riding Outcomes

Good questions refocus your attention on aspects of the situation that are within your control.

This shift from feeling threatened to feeling secure allows your creative, solution-oriented mind to take the lead.

Cultivate Curiosity to Overcome Riding Fear and Boost Confidence

In moments of challenge or anxiety, it's easy to become fixated on the problem at hand.

By cultivating curiosity and consistently asking empowering questions, you can quickly redirect your focus toward finding solutions and solving problems.

This approach will improve your horse riding experiences and help you develop a deeper connection and stronger partnership with your horse, allowing you to ride with more confidence.

About the Author

Anne Gage, The Horse Riding Confidence Coach

Anne Gage, The Horse Riding Confidence Coach, began specialising in helping anxious horse riders after losing her own riding confidence while she was a professional riding coach and horse trainer!

As a recovered anxious rider, Anne knows what it’s like to be truly terrified to ride. She also knows how important the relationship between horse and rider is for confidence.

Anne’s unique coaching includes riding and horsemanship skills combined with qualifications in equine behaviour, NLP, and hypnosis. (But don’t worry, she won’t have you clucking like a chicken!).

Anne is a popular clinician, a regular contributor to Horse Canada magazine and The Rider, and the author of the book, Confident Rider Confident Horse.

Anne lives with her husband of 40+ years, 2 dogs, 3 cats, and 3 horses on their farm north of Orangeville, Ontario.

Find out more at www.confidenthorsemanship.com

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