Worried about ruining your horse because you don't think you know enough or you're not a good enough rider?
Scared that your horse will suffer because of your mistakes?
You're not alone! This is a common concern - especially for horsewomen of a certain age.
And, that concern is a good one!
Not because you are ruining your horse. But, because you care enough to worry that you might.
The truth is that you will make mistakes.
We all do. Because none of us is perfect.
The important thing is to recognize and learn from your mistakes. And to get qualified help when you're stuck or the situation with your horse is going downhill.
Even professional riders have ruined horses
There are many horses who have been ruined by "good" and very experienced riders and trainers.
People who cared more about getting the end result over the horse's well-being.
I've worked with horses who have come out of these situations.
These are the horses who's minds and bodies have been traumatized by being:
- handled harshly, overworked and forced into compliance
- pushed into work that they weren't mentally or physically ready for
- ridden in ill-fitting tack for long periods of time (sometimes years)
- kept from having adequate access to friends, forage and freedom.
Because you're concerned, that tells me that you are a person who really cares about your horse's overall well being.
Riding horses is a journey
Riding and caring for horses is a journey - not a destination. I've been doing it for almost 40 years, and I'm still learning.
I don't do things the same way I did even 5 years ago.
So, the best thing you can do to avoid ruining your horse is to continue learning.
Keep asking questions and looking for information so that you can provide the best possible care for your horse and be the best possible rider.
Get help from reliable sources
Now, if you're looking for answers by posting in general horse interest Facebook groups, you're probably feeling overwhelmed and confused by all the conflicting responses and suggestions.
There is a saying that if you ask 10 horse-people a question, you'll get 10 different answers. And, there is some truth to that statement.
So, if you're worried that your skills or knowledge are not adequate for the challenges you're having with your horse - either for his care, nutrition or training - get help from a knowledgeable expert.
Someone who has the same philosophy and values as you when it comes to horses.
Someone who can help you:
- set realistic and appropriate goals
- create a clear plan and
- support you as you implement it.
Sometimes all you need to get a big shift is to make a small change.
The next time someone offers you some horsemanship or horse riding advice, ask these 3 questions:
- Why does the person do it that way?
- How does it affect the horse - mentally as well as physically?
- What does it do to build partnership between horse and human?
And... listen to your instincts. If it doesn't sit well with you, walk away. Be an advocate for you horse.
If you're still feeling worried about ruining your horse, let's talk. Book in a free 15 minute consultation where we'll talk about your concerns and you'll leave knowing what your next steps are.
